Relationship Advice on Trust, Cheating and Infidelity

The topics of trust, cheating and infidelity in dating relationships has been the focus of entire books, so we're just going to cover the basics in this section.

Every unmarried woman knows how to spot the telltale signs that a guy has recently removed a ring from his finger—especially if he’s “just in town for a few days on business.”

Every wife knows that you don’t have to find “lipstick on his collar” (as the song from the 1950s goes) to figure out some cheating has been going on.

But in those glorious, intoxicating early days of a relationship, what are the subtle, less obvious signs that your Prince Charming will go looking for another princess someday—or possibly already has one?

Here are several.

Only wants to see you on weekdays. This one is a “gimme.” He’s spending weekends with someone else.

Wants to spend all your time together at your place. Because there’s probably lots of evidence at his place that another woman spends time there.

Says he spends a lot of time with his male buddies but gets very non-specific about the details, possibly even evasive when you ask what they were doing.

Keeps you away from his male buddies because they might slip up and blow his cover. If they’re good friends, they definitely know about the other woman and may get loose-lipped about her after a few cocktails.

Keeps you far, far away from any female friends or co-workers because you’ll probably know intuitively from their body language that they’re uncomfortable around you. They know what he’s doing, they don’t like it, and they’ll show it—even if they don’t do so consciously.

Says he only has a cell phone so you can never call his home phone and leave a message when someone else might be listening.

Or, it it’s verifiably true that a cell phone is the only phone that he has, does he turn it off when you’re together? Does he get calls on it often that he won’t answer, telling you that he doesn’t recognize the number, or knows who it is and will call them back later.